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Defeating Loneliness

1.sadness because one has no friends or company.

Covid-19 has caused major downfalls in American society – joblessness, closure of social gatherings, and social distancing, to name a few – with no end in sight. All of this has led to high anxiety, increased loneliness, and intense disparity.

One thing we can do as a people is resist loneliness and aid in reducing despair for others. There is a simple way to both help yourself feel less alone, while also checking in on your loved ones. 

The act of serving one another has been an effective tool to bring purpose to life. One of the reasons that recovering addicts volunteer and help other recovering addicts is to give themselves an increased sense of purpose. 

It has been said that serving others will do wonders for your morale – boost self-confidence, self-worth, and give you a mission in life. In a Covid-19 world, is there a way to effectively serve one another while staying safe? The answer is yes. 

One effective way to serve someone during this time is to video chat and give your loved one your undivided attention. It has been said that giving someone 5 minutes of your undivided attention is more effective than giving someone an hour of your time while distracted. 

We have all been in situations where you are at dinner with someone, telling them your hardships, as they sit across the table from you while checking their Instagram DMs. How did you feel? Probably ignored. 

We can spend hours with someone having drinks and dinner and leave feeling completely unheard. Think about that – you spend 2 hours with someone, talking about your deep emotions, and yet, you leave feeling unimportant. 

On the flipside, we’ve also had those moments where someone calls you and takes five or ten minutes to see how you are and listen to you, and by the time you hang up, you feel validated. It doesn’t take a ton of time to make someone feel heard. 5 minutes of undivided attention could change the way someone is feeling. 

One other thing we can do to help defeat loneliness: bring someone a meal. A simple pizza, wings, or a casserole could make someone’s week. In many cultures, emotions are responded to with food. In America, it has been a long standing tradition to bring a casserole to a grieving family after they lost a loved one. 

Oftentimes, we are so busy that we don’t have time to make homemade food. When I lost my mother, someone brought some homemade tacos, rice, and beans, and it was wonderful to be able to have a meal without worrying about my current situation. 

Bringing someone a meal will give you a small ego boost when they tell you they enjoyed it, but it will also make you feel good about helping someone feed their family. Granted, I am not saying that you should bring food to every single one of your friends, but you should especially consider doing it for a friend in need. 

Many of us have lost work, so having a meal or two taken care of will help relieve stress. I have had multiple people offer to bring me food as simple as rice and beans to full Italian feasts. It has made me feel loved and important. It could be life changing. 

One of the things that have proven to effectively connect me to other people is creating and consuming content. Live streaming has been a great thing for me. Many bands and comedians have done livestreams to connect with their fans. My favorite singer is Myles Kennedy and he did a livestream a few weeks ago that meant the world to me. 

Creating content has also become a staple for me. I have a podcast called You’re My Best Friend and we have had many listeners tell me that the podcast has helped them sleep, or feel connected. My co-host and I have done many live streams that we feel help our audience deal with loneliness. 

Everyone has the opportunity to make someone’s day. I literally had someone drop off Diet Peach Snapple because they saw it at a store and they knew I loved it. Simple and random acts of kindness will keep us all sane. 

In conclusion: call someone, feed someone, do a live stream, comment on people’s stuff, and thank people for being kind. Together, we will defeat loneliness. 

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